Monday, September 26, 2016

The challenge to be "Grounded"

It takes some people longer than others to figure out what they are supposed to be doing with their life.

I know I write a lot about knowing who you are and what you were created to be. I believe this is very important as it is the root  for our existence. Once we discover why we are here and what we are supposed to be doing, every thing naturally flows on from there. So do not be overwhelmed by this, It is my hope that someone is blessed by one of my posts.

I am going to dive right in. I know a lot of people struggle with finding out who they truly are and what they are supposed to be doing with their life. So they jump from one thing to the other, leaving trails of unfinished projects, quitting before the business has time to grow, stranded ideas that began as a "great" idea and they end up thoroughly confused and frustrated. Which will often lead them back to repeat the cycle of Fresh start - excited about something new -New idea- Questions and frustration - Tired and frustrated - Depressed - Strong again then (repeat cycle).
How do i know? I found myself in this cycle. It has taken me years, tears and fears to come to where I am right now. I do not assume that I have figured it all out, but I know I am no more going through that cycle.

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Destiny steps

Where you are now is where you're supposed to be. 

As strange as that may sound depending on what you may be going through right now, It is true. You may ask how I know and why I am so sure. I have read the stories of so many people and I have experienced it for my self that every thing happens for a reason. 

We may call it mistakes or bad luck, but I call it destiny steps. I have noticed that everything that has ever happened in my life has brought me to this moment.

Sometimes it may not feel like it or look like it, but there is a single thread in everything we experience, some may be self inflicted as the case may be, others may be circumstantial. In all, there is a purpose behind every pain.

So before you go on a rampage on how life is unfair to you and wonder why this may be happening to you or that happened in your family, remember that there are other people out there going through similar or worse situations, turn on the news channel and you will see that you have it easy (within the context of this post). 

We tend to personalize our pain because rightfully we are the ones faced with the reality of dealing with it, so it is difficult to just take what someone else has to 'say' because you they are not the ones experiencing it, you  are feeling the pain  that may seem like it will never go away or worse case, the fear that you may never come out of it because of the intensity or the ripple effect it may have on your life, family or relationships.

Friday, September 2, 2016

The fear of Uncertainty

Life doesn't always give us what we want. In most cases, it takes us in the opposite direction of where we are trying to go. 
The question is, what do you do when you're on a path you did not ask for and was not ready to tread?.

The thing with sudden and unexpected changes is, no body really wants to leave their comfort zone (even though we know that's where great things happen). We just don't want to stay out in an unfamiliar space for too long, and in the worst case, be dealing with an unfamiliar situation, in a particularly tough and  under unfamiliar circumstances.  I call it, "The fear of uncertainty".

NOT knowing what is going to happen next is a daunting place to be, especially if you like to KNOW  ahead of time and you are someone who likes to plan and be prepared for things so you know what moves you need to make to avoid unpleasant situations. 
See, life is funny because nobody really knows what is going to happen next, we all live with the hope that it wont be us trying to survive what life throws out, in which often times are not very pleasant.

So everyone is walking around trying to dodge hardships and unplanned/unpleasant situations. When in fact these things are there to prune us.

To be thrown into an unexpected derailing situation in the middle of a thriving life or familiar process is HARD, You are forced to change EVERYTHING you knew and how you handle things.
There may (will be) a time of deep depression, you realize that it is at that point that you will MEET yourself for the first time. Who you are, what you are made of, what you believe in, who your true friends are and how strong your family ties really are. In other words, its a scary place to be!